Epic Failure




Ok, Spoiler Alert!!!!

That title is a bit of a stretch...

A bit of an exaggeration even...

However, it is something that I did that was avoidable even with all of my "Conflict Management" experience...

Do you remember that old adage,

“Praise in public.
Criticize in private.”

Well... the EPIC FAILURE I am referring to is regarding that saying...

Here I am a conflict management 'expert' and I didn't abide by this very old and simple rule...

Why?!

Because I'm some jerk?!

NO...

I wasn't really trying to be, I just didn't think the situation was that big of a deal. However, I didn't consider what the other person had into it!  The result was hurt feelings, that could probably have avoided had I been thinking more about how the other person would feel about it.

A part of me knew that it might end up being a sensitive issue, yet it didn't register enough for me to act on it...
I underestimated their reaction and didn't do what I should have to be more sensitive about the circumstance...

Needless to say, I feel bad...

So, for all of you out there in PeaceWalker Land...

Here's the Lesson...

Remember...

“Praise in Public.
Criticize in Private.”

EVEN When YOU Think It's NOT a Big Deal, The OTHER Person MIGHT!!

Join me and other PeaceWalkers on our Facebook Group - PeaceWalker Community.

Here's the link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/



Keep going,
~Craig

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