I'd Never Do THAT!?!






What I want to share today has to do with limits of perspective when it comes to having an open mind about different ways of doing things...

When I'm training people to deal with conflict or violence, I sometime hear them say...

"I'd never do THAT!"

...or

"We/I do it THIS way..."

When the hard chargers see a way of dealing w/conflict or violence that is a bit of a 'softer' approach they often think, "I'd never do THAT!" and then proceed to create a worse case, no win scenario that is typically void of any of the aftermath ethically, emotionally or legally.

Conversely...

When the gun shy crew (who aren't so much into the physical nature of protecting) are introduced to a physically 'assertive' tactic, they believe "I'd never do THAT!" and then shut down or white wash the situation, trying to keep it in the area that they are comfortable with... Which may be anything but physical.

They often site legalities, ethics or...

Create a 'one and done' solution by calling on the 'proper' organization, department or policy to deal with the situation in attempt to isolate themselves from having to deal with the situation at the level that it actually is at, rather than the level they are comfortable with.

(It's not to say that calling for someone's help is inherently bad, because it's not... However, if you are learning a new skill or approach you have to entertain activities and ways of thinking that you may not be comfortable with!)

So, with that said...

Here's a different way of approaching learning something new...

Rather than saying,

"I'd never do THAT!"

...or

"We/I do it THIS way..."

Say...

When Would I Do That?!

As someone once said...

"Minds are like parachutes, they only work when they're OPEN!"

When you are introduced to a new method of doing something...

Think to yourself...

"Under What Circumstance Might that work or be appropriate?"


Don't Limit Yourself...


When you start saying...

"I'd never do THAT..."

You start closing off your mind and tactical options!

Yes, you may still CHOOSE not to do something, or to do things differently...

But, if you start closing off your thoughts off to other options, you often begin to discount other ways of doing things as an option at all, which will limit your tactical perspective as a whole.

This will also stunt your growth to learning new ways of thinking and/or doing things...

When you start limiting your options and shortening your view, you begin setting yourself up for failure in your approach to self defense, conflict management, your relationships, career, and Life!


Like Communication Skills...


Remember that Verbal Communication Skills should also be a part of your Self Defense Training.

Believe it or not, I get a lot of push back on this...

I get it!

Training the verbal stuff just isn't that easy or fun to train (unless you train w/a good instructor and program...)

HOWEVER...

You'll find that when you open your mind (and training) up, you'll start to see really BIG things begin to happen for you in not only your training, but in your Life!


...You just have to get started!


Keep going,
~Craig



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