Putting the "B" In Itching!


 Itch... Itch... Itch...


You ever find yourself complaining? 

Sometimes you may not notice it really. It starts small and grows. Then it Grows, and GROWS! Suddenly, you realize you sound like one of "those" people. You know the one's I'm talking about?! Those negative ones that no one wants to be around.

There are some days you start feeling this coming on and you choose to do something about it. 

Sometimes, just realizing you're in 'that' spot, stopping for a moment, taking a couple deep breaths and recalibrating a second is all it takes. 

Other times, you have to go to greater lengths to get out of this state.

There are many methods you can employ. As a matter of fact, I go over several of them in the PeaceWalker Conflict Communication Course and other modules.(If you're a private member go check them out.)

My first attempt at changing my state failed. No amount of breathing and trying to adjust my attitude was working, so I decided to go for a walk. 

A forty minute walk in the cool afternoon air and a quick snack did the trick! 
I was back to my old self and ready to get back to it. 

Now, I know that it's not always possible to go for a walk to get yourself out of your bad mood. The first step is really learning how to...

Notice when you're in a bad mood.

Sometimes that helps you to navigate things better. Knowing that you are more argumentative or sarcastic, or just in the mood to complain... about everything and anything, can help you to dial things in if you are stuck in a situation that you can't remove yourself from. 

If that's the case, then I will rely on two main things:

1) Breathing - I will make it a point to focus in on my breath.
2) Shutting up & listening - Yep, that's right, when I'm in a bad mood, the more my lips are a flapp'n, the deeper hole I'm often diggin' for myself.

A third recommendation is often (but not always), telling the person I'm speaking with, that I'm just in a irritable mood, so discussing some topics may not be constructive right now.

Being in a sour mood is a sure way to create some juicy conflict! It's those types of attitudes that turn a good situation bad, or a bad to worse!

The more control you have over your own mindset, the more options you will have at your command during a situation!

Keep Those Things In Mind...

This week when you are going about your business try to have some self awareness and see if you can start to notice when you are in a bad, itchy, mood! Be honest with yourself, show some grace and deal with it. See if you can't change your state and get in a better headspace. 

Speaking of people being negative... It reminds me of the drive by Troller that hit my youtube channel the other day! 

(That's what started my mood this weekend! =) 

He had some pretty choice words about one of the self defense techniques on one of my Daily Cup of Krav videos! 

If you want to hear all about that, here's the link to my podcast. That episode comes out Friday.  


Alright, that's it for me today!



Keep going,
~Craig

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