Drama Queens Hate This!

 



Windy day today.

Feels like the winds of change are a blow’n too!

Winds of new seasons in many, many ways...

You feeling it too?!

With change comes drama and as we know, there are plenty of Karen’s and Wayne’s (the male equivalent of the ‘Karen’) out there to suck you into their dumpster fires.

There really is a simple solution and it involves…

Two Simple Letters

Drama is often about control. A person will attempt to control a conversation by stirring emotions into a frenzy, to get their way or to fill some emotional need they have. 

 

Whether drama is intentionally or unconscious, it best to avoid it. Negative drama can ruin relationships, destroy careers and create chronic stress that leads to all sorts of health problems…

Not to mention, I don’t know about you, but I just don’t have the time or patience for it.

 

If you are sick and tired of dealing with drama daily, start using the two-letter word drama queens, (and kings) hate to hear.

 

 

“No!”

 

Sometimes we just forget that it's okay to say no.

 

This is true on the job and in your personal lives.

It's okay to tell your friend that you don’t feel like going tonight. 

Or…

 

No, you won't help your coworker on a project when she thinks she won't hit her deadline.

You may remind her that this happens frequently and that you have your own work responsibilities to deal with.

 

Sometimes all you have to do is answer no to a request to enjoy less stress and drama.

Don’t get sucked into the “Why Not” debate.

It’s a Trap!

You don’t have to give a reason. No, sometimes is just No!

“Dude, I’m not debating with you. The answer is no.”

Keep it short.

Don’t get all lathered up about things. Be jovial, nice, professional, yet firm.

Enough is Enough…

Some other words and phrases you can use are:

Stop

Enough

I’m done

This discussion is over

If we can’t have a healthy conversation, then it’s done

The Most Important Part

Don’t stick around after you’ve said what you have to say. Simply leave.

Don’t be rude, simply excuse yourself and leave.

“I have to get going.”

If this is something that needs to be addressed that’s a different story. Maybe we can address that in another email, but for now, don’t get pulled into the drama, state what you need to, end the conversation and walk away.

Something to Build On…


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Keep Going,
~Craig

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