It’s Easy to Hate What We Fear

 


Stormy day in more ways than one…

I got a call from one of the guys going though the PeaceWalker Evolution / Momentum Program. He had somethings on his mind and heart. Deep, heavy, important things that many of us are struggling with right now. Things that we’ve been trying to figure out since the dawn of time…

Specifically in this case, it concerns the war in Israel and Gaza… and the division it’s causing all over the world and namely here in the US.

His dilemma (which I’m sure ALL of us can relate to) is how do you deal with people who not only have views that are opposed to yours, but views that are hateful and so emotionally charged that they can’t be reasoned with.

And…

To make matters worse, what do you do when you find yourself getting angry yourself and wanting to lash out against them.

What do you do with all of that?

I Get It!

It’s easier to be the wise tranquil sage, alone on top of the mountain, rather than the PeaceWalker getting your hands dirty, down here in the trenches, handling everyday people and situations in the real world.

You notice I’m not picking sides here… Of course, I have my opinion, but it isn’t about what ‘side’ you’re taking. It’s about how do you deal with people who don’t believe the same way as you do. People who are being emotional, hateful and maybe even violent.

Obviously (hopefully), you realize that that if things get violent, you should do what you need to to be safe… Try for Most Good / Least Harm to the best of your ability, but make no mistake, protect yourself (and others), if necessary. (BTW - This doesn’t mean be the instigator of the havoc & violence.)

When it comes to less than violent encounters, resist reflecting the same hate and emotional fervor to the person / group who is initiating it. (I know… That’s HARD to do!)

If you don’t think you can interact in a healthy, balanced way, then don’t if you don’t have to. Walk away. Choose not to engage, if you do, then wait until you get yourself under control.

Pick your battles so to speak.

Think of this like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum. If you are the parent, you may want to throw a tantrum too… But that won’t do anyone any good.

People in an emotional state can’t be rationalized with until they come down from that state. You won’t be able to use logic to solve an emotional problem.

So, if you or the other person(s) get so revved up emotionally about something, it’s going to be difficult to have a rational, healthy conversation, let alone make an attempt to work out the problem.

If you’re not careful, things may just get worse. Each side trying to out ‘temper tantrum’ the other (typically resulting in violence).

On and On…

This email could go on and on about this subject, but neither you nor I have the time for that, so let me just share two things to close out this discussion for now:

“You must not hate those who do wrong or harmful things; but with compassion, you must do what you can to stop them — for they are harming themselves, as well as those who suffer from their actions.”

~Dalai Lama

“In time we hate that which we often fear.”

~ William Shakespeare

A Bigger Discussion?

Yes…

We talk about this (and other topics) in MUCH greater depth in the PeaceWalker Evolution Course… However, if you’re not already in this year’s program, you missed it for now…

But, don’t despair...

You can join us on our new PeaceWalker Network!

It’s a place where you can more deeply connect to this community and get some unique training opportunities (online and Live) on how to protect yourself and those you care about better.

Why?!

Because, learning how to protect yourself (and others) is so much more than simply getting a gun or practicing some physical self defense. You’ll need more than that to keep yourself (and those you care about) safe, healthy and happy in today’s day and age.

If this resonates with you, then follow the link below to get access to our free content and community.

https://peacewalker.mn.co/share/TF38eL-uJGM8PjdO?utm_source=manual

Keep Going,

~Craig

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